We get stuck in patterns that we learn early on in our lives and whilst the rest of us grows up and develops, some of the areas that we get stuck in, limits our growth. Our human nature, which is growth oriented, keeps motivating us to move on and up, to grow, but it’s when we cannot break free of our restrictive patterns that we end up moving in circles instead of moving up.
Here are a few things we can do to break free from these circles;
1. Awareness: Talking to a therapist helps to identify the issues we are struggling with. Sometimes using a tool like Johari's window allows us insight into our blind spots. These spots can hold us back if we do not bring them into our conscious awareness.
2. Coping Mechanisms when we were young: We need to recognize and accept that we developed coping mechanisms for our challenges at a time when we had age appropriate resources.
These coping resources may not work as well today as they did when we were younger. Our maturity level now opens doors for us to access a variety of more effective resources. However, that means taking the courage to face our fears, be patient with our tender fearful selves and let the part of us that has had the opportunity to grow , negotiate with our fearful selves and gently encourage us to try different things to move on up and grow.
3. Learning new coping strategies: A good therapist can help select the right tools or resources for you to tap into your strengths and be creative about finding new coping strategies that fit your existing lifestyle. Learning new ways of coping and strategically coming from a place of strength is your key to being successful.
4. Consistency in following through: Once we make a commitment to try something new, it can become challenging to stay consistent. The natural tendencies to slip into old comforting habits can be strong. However a conscious awareness to stay consistent is the key to easing into a new healthy way of coping.
Therapy helps you use your own experiences, your language, and your strengths to get there. Working collaboratively you can break free from your restrictive patterns, and embrace your opportunities!
Here are a few things we can do to break free from these circles;
1. Awareness: Talking to a therapist helps to identify the issues we are struggling with. Sometimes using a tool like Johari's window allows us insight into our blind spots. These spots can hold us back if we do not bring them into our conscious awareness.
2. Coping Mechanisms when we were young: We need to recognize and accept that we developed coping mechanisms for our challenges at a time when we had age appropriate resources.
These coping resources may not work as well today as they did when we were younger. Our maturity level now opens doors for us to access a variety of more effective resources. However, that means taking the courage to face our fears, be patient with our tender fearful selves and let the part of us that has had the opportunity to grow , negotiate with our fearful selves and gently encourage us to try different things to move on up and grow.
3. Learning new coping strategies: A good therapist can help select the right tools or resources for you to tap into your strengths and be creative about finding new coping strategies that fit your existing lifestyle. Learning new ways of coping and strategically coming from a place of strength is your key to being successful.
4. Consistency in following through: Once we make a commitment to try something new, it can become challenging to stay consistent. The natural tendencies to slip into old comforting habits can be strong. However a conscious awareness to stay consistent is the key to easing into a new healthy way of coping.
Therapy helps you use your own experiences, your language, and your strengths to get there. Working collaboratively you can break free from your restrictive patterns, and embrace your opportunities!
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